Options for Infertility; Invitro, Adoption or Find a Surrogate Mother

If you are trying to start a family and can’t get pregnant, you have other options, each has its advantages and disadvantages. Invitro fertilization can be expensive, but it is not a guaranteed success. Adoption and surrogacy are other alternatives.

There comes a time in most couples lives when they decide to start a family. For many, this means going off birth control and conceiving together naturally. For some, traditional methods of getting pregnant aren’t an option. Fortunately, the modern world offers a host of options for infertile couples. Popular options are to get an invitro procedure done, find a surrogate mother, or adopt.

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One of the options of infertility is invitro fertilization.


Invitro is one of the most advanced fertilization methods available today. It is used for couples who have tried every other method. Generally, infertility doctors like couples to wait a year before getting treatment because there are so many other factors that can prevent pregnancy.

If, after fertility exams, both partners are deemed able to reproduce, doctors will generally start the woman on Clomed, a medication used to increase the amount of eggs during ovulation. If Clomed is unsuccessful, the next step is artificial insemination, a process by which the male partner’s sperm is artificially introduced to the female’s egg inside her uterus.

If this still is unsuccessful, Invitro will be considered. During Invitro, the entire fertilization process is done outside of the woman’s body. The eggs are harvested and fertilized with the sperm, and when conception has taken place, they are then put back into the uterus. Invitro gives couples the opportunity to bear children who otherwise could not.


A second option for infertile couples is to find a surrogate mother. During this process, couples chose a woman to carry their baby the length of the pregnancy. It is an extensive process to find the right women to carry your baby. There is lots of paperwork and many interviews involved to help you find the right match. You want to find someone you trust to take care of themselves during the pregnancy and who will communicate with you frequently. Surrogacy is also an extremely expensive process. Luckily, odds are pretty high that at the end of it, you will have a baby.


For some couples, neither Invitro nor surrogacy are realistic options. Both are extremely expensive. One cycle of Invitro can cost up to $12,000 and surrogacy averages about $28,000. For couples wanting children without the money to fund these processes, adoption is a third viable option. Adoption, while also pricey, can be less expensive than the alternatives.

Adoption can, however, be a lengthy process. Copious amount of paperwork are necessary and getting the call do adopt can take anywhere from months to years. Although adoption can be emotionally challenging, receiving a baby and giving them a loving home is very rewarding. Your adoptive child becomes part of your family just as any baby born to you would.

Infertility today is at an all time high. Fortunately, you are not without options. Educate yourself about options available and consider how realistic it would be to try Invitro, find a surrogate┬ámother, or adopt. Each of these options creates opportunity to start the family you’ve always wanted.

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