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4 Secrets to Effective Communication in Marriage

To have effective communication in marriage, talk about small things, address issues immediately in private, listen and give in sometimes to your spouse.

Before reaching a lawyer, there are a few secrets to effective communication in marriage to remedy problems before they start. Communication in marriage is always a difficult matter to effectively handle well, especially when you have lived with someone for years or even decades. It is everlastingly important for a couple to enjoy a happy marriage together. Too often, divorce lawyers see clients that are seeking a split simply because their communication skills have effectively fallen apart.

A good marriage starts with good communication.
A good marriage starts with good communication.

Realize that you need to talk about the issue, even if it seems small and insignificant. Talking about it will relieve the pressure, keeping the relationship open and friendly.

  • First, talk about the small issues. The “ideal” marriage partner is one that knows when to speak up about something and when to keep quiet. They don’t bring up an issue that bothers them because they perceive it to be a small thing. They don’t want to appear oversensitive and keep it inside instead of talking about it. More often than not though, the more of those little things they bottle up, the greater the pressure on their relationship as a whole. Build up too much of it and you’re liable to explode, letting all of the small things out in a tirade of noise and painful words. Realize that you need to talk about the issue, even if it seems small and insignificant. Talking about it will relieve the pressure, keeping the relationship open and friendly. Trust your spouse to handle the information. If it truly isn’t that big of a deal, then don’t blow it out of proportion in the conversation. Adjust the conversation to match the intensity. Oftentimes, you’ll find that just talking about the issue will be enough to resolve it.

  • Second, address the issues immediately. For reasons explained in the first tip, address issues as soon as you can—even when they’re small. Find a private moment to speak with your spouse about it as soon as you can. The longer you wait, the more you’ll convince yourself you don’t need to talk about it.
  • Third, address issues in private and only with your spouse. This next part can’t be stressed enough. Tossing around accusations in front of an audience hurts your spouse and puts them on the defensive. They want to save face in those situations and will fight back—just like you would should they attack you in a similar way. This seriously hurts their trust in you and often makes them less likely to change. It’s the same when you talk about these marital issues with your mother, siblings, co-workers, or anyone else you come in contact with. When you keep issues between yourselves in private, your spouse will take your concerns more seriously and respect your wishes. Expect the same from their behavior and don’t take the bait should they break this rule.
  • Fourth, listen always and give in sometimes. Always be willing to listen to your spouse. A marriage is the joining of two people’s livelihoods. No two people think exactly alike and you two will differ on some aspects. In these moments, you have to be willing to listen to the other. Seriously consider what they’re saying and remove yourself from your emotions a bit to see what their point is. Give their thoughts a fair assessment and hear them out.

Be willing to give in sometimes, even if you’re convinced that you’re right. Successful relationships give and take equally. The couple doesn’t have to be right all the time; they just have to be unified. So listen to what the other is saying and be willing to give in sometimes to encourage unity. You’ll enjoy a much happier relationship.

Try these secrets out again if you’ve forgotten them. They’ll help you return a wavering relationship to one built on mutual communication and a lifetime of  love.


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Five Ways to Make Your Home Safer

Home safety is more than equipping your home with safety equipment like fire extinguishers. You also should drill your household with safety procedures.

How safe is your home? Home safety precaution measures like installing smoke detectors, getting non-skid mats or even handrails tend to keep everyone safe.  However, by only equipping your house with means to keep it safe does not mean you are prepared as well.

Safety should be a priority for the family in the household.
Safety should be a priority for the family in the household.

As they say, practice makes perfect.  You should practice safety procedures, just in case. Simple safety routines can mean the difference and they are not hard to practice. On the bright side, you can also make them into family games, just to make it fun. To freshen up your knowledge go over these five easy tips.

Fire hazard evasion

If you have smoke detectors, do not only use them as decoration, test them regularly to see if they are working, they just might save your life one day. Practice fire drills with your family, so that every household member knows exactly what to do and how to help the others. Buy smaller fire extinguishers that can be left around places that are most likely to cause fire hazards, and of course teach everyone in the house how to use one.

Cleanliness means safety

Keep poisonous chemicals out of children’s reach as well as all other sharp objects. If you had to call pest control, did you clean your house thoroughly enough for children to be safe? Remember, kids like to touch and taste everything, and to make sure they will have a safe house to play in, call cleaning services once a year. They will make sure that your house is as clean as a whistle.

Identify hazard causes

Make sure that all parts of your house are hazard free, by identifying where family members can trip or fall you can install safety measures to counter it. Keeping a clutter free house lessens the chances of someone having an accident, also remember to teach everyone in the house why clutter is bad. Pay special attention to staircases as they need the most care if you want to ensure everyone is safe.

Sharp tools and corners

Try to make corners of furniture padded so that your little tuckers can play around freely. Also, remember proper kitchen etiquette; knives and sharp tools or chemicals go to places where children cannot reach them, even if they tried. Hold house meetings regularly where you can discuss proper safety procedures for the kitchen.

Water safety

Come up with practices that will keep your family safe from dangerous water related accidents. A tub can be fun to play in, but what happens if no one is around to help you if you get underwater for too long? To evade situations where your family could get hurt, make sure there is always someone around to help each other. And if you have a pool, gates to the backyard are a must.


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